Creating safe spaces to learn the truth about identity and sexuality.
FBB believes this project must be implemented with the full support of the community. Unlike government-mandated clubs, we want to implement the program with the understanding and support of your Christian community. The topics of sexuality and gender are complicated and we believe we can help create a safe and caring community for all of your students andmembers when everyone is involved in these discussions. This includes parents, teachers and students.
The 13 Topics
The following are the 13 topics an Identity Project group will discuss. For each topic, we include goals, discussion questions around sexuality and gender identity and practical ways to live out the biblical worldview.
1 Why Talk about Sex?
In the first session, we’ll discuss various views of sex, how it’s defined and ask why so many are focused on sex and sexuality. We’ll discuss what kind of values the culture teaches about sex and how the biblical view of sex provides a better understanding of God’s design for our sexualities and identities.
2 What is Identity?
In this session, we’ll examine what is meant by identity and what determines identity (race, gender, sexuality, faith, age, marriage, wider relationships etc.). We’ll emphasize the point that we may not choose our race or sexual attractions, but we can choose not to make those aspects of our lives into our core identities. This session will show students that not all identities are equal in impact or importance.
3 What is Male and Female?
In this session, we’ll ask what is “male” and “female,” when so many confuse or downplay, the differences. We’ll examine how the Bible defines masculinity and femininity through their relationship with each other and with God, rather than as independent concepts. In fact, we’ll show how the biblical view is one of the few worldviews that teaches both men and women reflect God’s image. We’ll also discuss how the definition of male should be expanded to include every man and female to include every woman.
4 Defining Gender
In this session, we’ll define gender and discuss why so many want to make this their core identity. We’ll talk about what role feelings should have in defining ourselves and whether or not feelings are more important than facts. We’ll also ask what roles society, and ultimately God, has in determining our identity.
5 The Reason for Sexuality
This session builds on the previous lessons and explores the purpose for our gender differences. We’ll discuss questions such as, “What is sexuality?” and “What is homosexuality?” and “What role our faith should play in shaping our sexual identity?” This will help us explore the central question of the Identity Project: “Should sexuality shape our identity?”
6 What is Love?—The Four Loves
In this session, we respond to the claim that, ‘love is love’ by showing how God designed us for four kinds of love: Storge, Philia, Eros and Agape. Each type of love is essential to human flourishing but they are not interchangeable.. For example, you can’t love your grandpa the same way you love your wife—those relationships meet different needs. We’ll discuss how God designed us to need intimacy with people of the same sex, as well as the opposite sex, and how each relationship meets different love needs. We’ll also address why culture has sexualized all these needs and so drastically affected how we love each other.
7 Exploring the Meaning and Purpose of Marriage
In this session, we’ll discuss God’s special plan for marriage and its importance in building societies and people. We’ll discuss how alternatives to marriage (polygamy, same-sex marriage) is incapable of doing what opposite-sex marriage can do.
In this session, we’ll talk about how God calls some to be single and that single people have a place in the church and society. We’ll discuss the single life of Jesus and the Apostle Paul, as well as ways to honour those who choose to remain single. For example, we’ll talk about why some churches use the label, “unmarried” vs “single”. We’ll also discuss how single people can handle sexual desires.
9 What is Sexual Integrity?
In this session, we’ll look at problems associated with pre- and extra-marital sex by discussing definitions of consent and integrity. We’ll discuss what constitutes sex and why celibacy outside of marriage is a good part of God’s design.
10 Pornography—Does it Hurt Anyone?
In this session we’ll examine lust vs love vs attraction. We’ll discuss what pornography is, and how it divorces sexual pleasure from relationship. We’ll also discuss how it destroys the importance of relationships by turning people (especially women) into objects for pleasure and thereby fosters human trafficking.
11 Pornography—Can you be Addicted?
In this session, we’ll discuss the growing problem of addiction to pornography. We’ll discuss why any addiction, even to good things, can become sin. This session will examine pornograhy’s invasion of daily life and what the inner world of the addict looks like. Finally, we’ll discuss why our bodies, and the bodies of others, should be valued as temples of God.
12 Homosexuality—Defining “Gay”
In this session, we’ll look at the many ways we can understand what the word “gay” means, and particularly what kind of identity it offers. We’ll also discuss the origins of the words “homosexual” and “heterosexual.” We’ll answer the question, “Does same-sex attraction mean you’re gay?”
13 Loving Our LGBT Neighbours
In our last session, we’ll discuss how we can support and show God’s love to our friends who deal with same-sex attraction and gender identity issues. This includes acknowledging that Christians have mistreated their LGBT neighbours. The session will also explore ways we can have conversations with others who disagree with the Biblical view of sexuality, and how to help those who are struggling.